And, when something is offensive, it’s always fun to find someone else who is offended by the same thing and commiserate about it. And most of the time, those conflicts won’t even be about anything important. Choosing to Be Offended Our right to express opinions, question the motives of others, or simply express disapproval, has copped a hammering in recent times. Saying the “wrong” (that is, unpopular) thing has got some people into trouble and silenced many others. Thinking it through and realizing if the frustration is worth your time. Reply Delete. Being offended is really a selfish way to treat people. You simply choose not to allow an untruth to enter. It often seems to me like its engrained in the “culture” of todays society where some people seem to be overly sensitive. The only person in this world that you can change is you. It is about what we want them to be. In other words, people with thin skin certainly would be offended by racial slurs and the like. In many instances, choosing to be offended is a symptom of a much deeper and more serious spiritual malady. Replies. No one can make you feel offended. Yes I think a lot of people DO choose it these days. It is a response focused not on the other person, but only on ourselves. Learning to release the energy that is attached to the thought is an easy decision. It is about our desire to change them. When we believe or say that we have been offended, we usually mean we feel insulted, mistreated or disrespected. Older and Wiser November 7, 2015 at 9:00 AM. And most of the time, those conflicts won’t even be about anything important. 3 min read. But they would also be offended by the guy who pulls onto the freeway going 3 miles an hour slower than they think the merging driver should be going. Basically you oppose someone else's view because it upsets you or hurts your feelings. Being offended in everything would include those things you listed. Maybe getting offended isn’t all that different from the adrenaline rush a scary movie produces. At least I’m not as ignorant as they are. The only way to remove offense from your life is to choose to respond differently. Finding something offensive can also be a nice boost to the ego. But not everything is those things. Being offended is essentially admitting your unability to regulate your own emotions. It is a sign of emotional weakness and insecurity to choose to be offended. Australians are being gagged. It is often the little things that we let get under our skin and we need to be quick to forgive! Being offended by everything will just make you get into conflicts with people all the time. Grow up. Reply. Choosing how you respond and wallow is up to you. Thomas B. Marsh allowed himself to be acted upon, and the eventual results were apostasy and misery. Being offended only hurts you, no one else is effected by your decision to take offense. 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