I have changed my entire outlook on relationships and humans and how we work after my ex came back over 2 months ago and I ended up saying no after thinking Id always say yes. My ex broke up with me first time due to codependence. The Real Reason Why Your Exes Come Back When You're Over ... ... *eyeroll* Then he broke up in May. 100%… And if I’m being honest here, from my experience I’d rather be dumped then being the dumper and I’ll tell you why. Chances of hearing from your ex years later are almost as high as hearing from him or her in the first month. The reason for that is because dumpers need a lot of alone time to live their life the way they had envisioned. Twice. For example, perhaps the two of you ended on bad terms or you were completely blindsided by the breakup, and your ex may feel compelled to come back and apologize and/or set the record straight once and for all. My ex came back. But there are some … Then came back in early April when I went NC. You don’t want to get back together with your ex before 4-6 months have passed anyway. Few days in relationship with him and ex come back to me full of ‘love’ and asked me back. Guilt: If you handled the breakup poorly by trying to talk your ex into getting back together, you likely tried to make them feel guilty about how they hurt you by breaking up with you.. I know if I stick to NC he will come back … Alden says May 10, 2020 . The one who told you how much you meant to … And once I realised this was how my ex-friend ‘loved’ me (oh they told me they did things for me out of ‘love’ like telling me they had thought about getting me a present, but not actually getting it, not that it would have mattered because gifts are not my language i.e. You are probably in a lot of pain right now, so you likely won’t believe what I’m about to say. There are also exes who come back in order to make things right between the two of you as well as to alleviate any hard feelings. As he already left me 2 times and didn’t care about me for so many months I rejected him. But unless you've committed some of the typical post-breakup mistakes, getting back with an ex is not dependent on you—but rather on your ex and the months and years of time. He broke up with me in March last year. If you did that, they might come back to you because they are trying to ease the guilt they feel. Your ex might have left you because they felt like it, and knew that when they decided to come back in their own time, you would be willing to take them again. During no contact, he realised he still loved me and 3 months later, he came back. Told me he was unhappy, didn’t see a future and didn’t love me anymore. It's been over 8 months now and we are still apart. The love letter is so true – thanjs for writing it up plainly. Months later I met new guy. Then he broke up with me again in March this year. Came back in June. I worked on myself. 2. 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